We all have that friend who may need a little encouraging to do something they’re a little apprehensive about. Or something that flat-out scares them. Like leading a run-out pitch, or dropping into a couloir they haven’t skied before, or rowing a rapid with a reputation for flipping boats, or riding a technical trail famous for breaking bicycles and bones. And many times, we are that friend who needs the encouraging.
Sometimes, the encouraging requires a tool called “sandbagging,” in which one friend convinces an apprehensive friend to do that thing which scares them by making the thing seem easier than it really is. Sandbagging is not quite lying, but not quite the truth, and in the end, one friend is satisfied that he/she helped the apprehensive friend “push their limits,” and the formerly apprehensive friend is…well, the reactions vary, really.
Sandbagging occurs when two friends have a different perception of the less-experienced friend’s ability, and the more-experienced friend wants to the less-experienced friend to explore their personal capabilities through a formative experience. Sandbagging can be, at one end of the spectrum, challenging, and at the other end, terrifying and deeply emotionally damaging. Here’s how it often works:
Stage 1: Doubt
Friend #1 believes their ability in a sport is not sufficient for a certain objective (example: riding the Portal Trail, leading the crux pitch of The Naked Edge, rowing Lava Falls). Friend #2 believes Friend #1’s ability is sufficient, and all that’s really missing is confidence.
Stage 2: The Sales Pitch
This is where Friend #2 tries to supply the appropriate confidence, with a number of tactics to convince Friend #1 that the impossible is possible. Friend #2 minimizes the danger or uncertainty, saying things like “Just relax,” “There’s a short technical section, but other than that it’s easy,” “You don’t need a #4 Camalot for this pitch,” “If you can follow it, you can lead it,” and many other phrases, usually including the Ultimate Sandbag Axiom, which is “You’ll Be Fine.” The key here is to push the sale, carefully, but firmly.
Stage 3: Commitment
When Friend #2 says “You’ll Be Fine,” Friend #1 only needs to believe it 51%. Friend #1 only needs just enough confidence to perform The Thing Which They Need But May Not Think They Want: to rack up and tie into the rope, clip into his/her pedals and drop in, grab the oars and pull the boat into the current, or buy the plane tickets, or make whatever irreversible first step is necessary for a memorable and formative experience. Friend #2 either needs a) only a 70-80% belief that Friend #1 can do The Thing Which They Need But May Not Think They Want, or b) only a 49% belief that they need to remain friends with Friend #1.
Stage 4: The Outcome
After Friend #1 decides to step into the void, march in the direction of their fear, or launch themselves into the often terrifying river of personal growth, a number of outcomes are possible, both positive and negative. Unscientific estimates put the success rate of sandbagging in the 75% realm, but are only anecdotal. In the case of sandbag failure, negative outcomes such as broken bones, broken bicycle components, swearing off climbing for the rest of one’s life, and embarrassing public breakups are possible. (It’s important to note here that sandbagging in romantic relationships is extremely risky and often disastrous, and should be attempted only with extreme caution, if at all.) On the positive side, personal limits are often shattered, climbing careers are begun, Facebook profile photos are captured, and astronomical leaps in personal growth can occur.
Sometimes, although not always, a friendship will survive a sandbag. The odds of this vary widely based on many factors, including the age of the friendship, the audaciousness of the sandbag, the respective emotional stability of the two friends involved, each person’s appreciation of the value of intense experiences, and the amount of physical and emotional damage incurred by the outcome of the sandbag. It’s important to weigh these factors to the best of your ability before you actually sandbag a close friend.
A good general rule is: If your friend does not survive your sandbag, your friendship will not survive it, either.
So how about the word itself, “sandbag”, how did that particular word arise, do you think?
I heard it said that it’s a sort of, “Here, catch this!” and you drop a sandbag on the unsuspecting person below waiting with open arms.
I am sure someone out there know the truth of the source of the word “sandbag”. Please share!
In the 19th century, the verb sandbag began to be used to describe the act of bludgeoning someone with a small, sand-filled bag – a tactic employed by ruffians, usually as a prelude to robbing their victims. The verb went on to develop metaphorical extensions, such as “to coerce by crude means.” By the 1940s, it was being used of a strategy in which a poker player with a good hand bets weakly, in order to draw other players into holding on to their hands and raising the bet. The use of sandbag has since evolved to refer to a general strategy of playing down one’s position in order to gain some sort of advantage.
David: Just now seeing this half a decade later and find it very satisfying to know the word’s roots.
Although I’m also a bit discouraged to find it has violent roots etymologically, having been identified as something of a “sandbagger” myself.
Sandbagged my wife into our first 14er…. we summitted….. she got to choose the next vacation.
To continue the discussion of the term itself: In chess, sandbagging is purposely losing games in low money tournaments so that your rating will go down and you can enter a high money tournament in a lower rating class (and therefore have a better chance of finishing in the money in your class).
Also in continuation of the discussion of the term: Sandbagging in bike races is when you are capable of racing in a higher (more advanced) category but decide to race at your current category in attempt to sweep up more upgrade points or aid a teammate in winning a race and/ or sweep upgrade points for themselves. Sand-bagging can be frowned upon by rival teams and opponents, but can prove highly beneficial in aiding teammates in getting their upgrade to the next race category.
ALSO sandbagging in bungee is when you hold a person tight (and unharnessed) make the jump and as you are as low as you go you let go of them thereby ROCKETING you !!! Their weight acting as a “sandbag”
Sandbagging in a romantic relationship should come with every warning in the label they make.
What is it when you *know* how difficult something is going to be, and actually try to talk the other person out of it, but they’re all-in anyway? You know that although it probably won’t be a walk in the park, you’ll all survive, so you cave and go along with it anyway. Is it still sandbagging?
That’s how my wife and I ended up hiking Marion Mt. Trail to the summit of San Jacinto (A moderately strenuous day-hike, to SoCal’s second highest peak.), while carrying our 2 and 4 y.o. boys on our backs (making it quite a bit less “moderate”). Definitely type 3 fun, but at least she couldn’t say I didn’t warn her.
My understanding of “Sandbagging”, like many above, seems to be the opposite of the way it’s used here. Instead of buoying up capabilities and having an outcome that could fail, you are playing down capabilities to ensure a positive outcome.
From one of the online dictionaries:
“Sandbagging is a strategy of lowering the expectations of a company or an individual’s strengths and core competencies in order to produce relatively greater-than-anticipated results”
Yeah, Gary, your understanding is valid; I have understood sandbagging under both interpretations. Your understanding could also be called, or related to “hustling.” Sort of a sideways interpretation of sandbagging: Muhammed Ali called it “Rope-a-Dope.”